Making time

When I was in India, me n my friends were in a habit of forwarding texts to each other. One of the forwards said something like this: "Gift some one your time. Because when you give someone your time, you give them a part of your life that is never going to come back!" Wow... That sounds real cheesy...

But, but there's an element of truth in it. The other day I was chatting with a friend, and she said: "If you prioritize something, you need to make time for it. It is the test of your genuine intentions..." She was speaking in context of relationships, where more often than not she had observed crumbling relations because either one could not make time for each other.

On my flight from States to India, I was watching some movie or reading some survey, don't remember exactly. But what I remember is a line: "Cheating is growing in relations, because the need for communication is not met within a relation." It went on to clarify why men cheated more than women, because their needs for communication were not met fully. (I don't think I would agree fully to the justification of cheating by men, but the gist of the story remains true..)

These three incidences and possibly numerous more personal experiences make me wonder about the same. What is a relation after all? It might be defined differently by different people. Is it coming together of two physical souls for mutual purpose of mating? But then that's available without even getting in a relation. What is it then, that makes a relation a necessity? For me, it is the notion of communication. Coming back to one person with whom you share your life, to express your experiences and your feelings, the sense of security that it brings along, that's what a relationship is needed for. The communication that starts with words, but reaches a level where two people don't need words any more to communicate. There's a silence that speaks to each other, of each others emotions. But, how would one reach to this stage, if there's no verbal communication initially?

What would you do if the person you care about, if the person you like would not make time for you? If there's no scope given to growth of a relation, is there use of the desire of being in one?

There are time sensitive questions that seem to shift the paradigm through which we look at relations.. Everyone seems to find there own way out of it. Could we find a way going "in" building a relation, rather than "out" of it?